Sunday Stats

*Since my family first got an NES, I’ve had a controller in my hands. Exploring new worlds, meeting new characters and experiencing stories… in some ways, I’ve just connected better with the world through games. However, it’s also very important to me to be present in my life, to improve myself, to go out and MEET the people I’ve connected with online and to expand my knowledge. I spend hours in games; how do I level myself up?

In this weekly series, I’ll chronicle how I’ve improved my “stats” with completely arbitrary scoring.*

+1 Intelligence – How did I make myself a little smarter? What did I learn?
Ugly Delicious on Netflix taught me so much about food and cultural perspectives (and I’m pretty sure it made Ryan think too!). I have to admit, I’d never questioned the American cultural status of Chinese food. David Chang (of Momofuku fame) pointed out that while it deserves the same consideration as French or Italian cuisines, it’s widely perceived as “cheap” and “dirty.” That was eye opening. I realized I’ve also considered Chinese food to be a cheap and “lesser” category of food. I don’t know the difference between regional flavors and styles. Though I always make an effort to experience and appreciate other cultures, it’s always a humbling reminder of my white privilege when these perspectives and perceptions smack me in the head. I’m grateful for shows like this that make me reflect and understand. I highly recommend everyone check it out.

+1 Charisma – How was I less awkward or more beautiful?
Our Boss’s Boss’s Boss was in the office this week and I made sure to get a little face time in with her. There were a lot of people clamoring for her attention, but I stepped up and asked her some good questions during her Office Hours.

-5 Strength – New workouts, breakthroughs, challenges.
It was a failed week at the gym. I didn’t make it once. Couldn’t sleep. Super emotional. Lots of crying. But I’m blasting this trend on Monday. I’ll never be ready for my race in April if I don’t get back into a solid routine NOW.

+2 Defense – Where did I consciously avoid or deflect negative energy?
My Discipline moved to a beautiful, bright new space this week. It’s not without its glitches, but it’s a massive improvement over our last floor. A lot of coworkers have been complaining about it though. So I’ve started pointing out something great for every complaint they have. “These pillars disrupt the room”: “We can wrap them in streamers and post up artwork!” “It’s going to be too crowded.”: “Let’s enjoy the quiet before we enjoy collaborating with everone else when they move in.” It’s all how you frame it. If you look for misery, you’ll always find it. If you look for the good, you will always find it.

+1 Luck – Something good that happened this week
I love my Passion Planner Eco, but when I close it the sleeve doesn’t quite fit right. The front of my poor bujo is bent in all manner from trying to wiggle and force it to close properly. I guess several buyers write a note to PP because they reached out offering a refund or replacement of my choice while they discontinue the Eco planner until it’s perfected. So now I’ll have a gorgeous Cosmic Rose Gold undated planner to map out 2019!

+5 Wealth – How did I save towards my goals?
I don’t know if I’ve mentioned before, but I dog sit through I figured I already have a dog so what’s one more? Why not get paid for Muldoon to have an occasional sleepover? Last year I made over $3,000 for hanging out with cool ass pups. This week I booked a new client for TWO AND A HALF WEEKS! AND she’s a puppy so I get my puppy rate. By this time last year, I hadn’t had a single booking yet and I only gained 2 new clients for all of 2017 (my regulars were super active though!). After this new booking, I’ll have already made 1/3 of my profits from 2017 and booked THREE new clients! It’s shaping up to be a lucrative year!

How did you level up this week?


How To Sever Cords of Attachment

I love. Verb. It’s what I do. It’s my energy. For a long time, I stored that love in other people, real and fictional, because I didn’t know I could invest it in myself. Until I exhausted myself pleasing other people. One day, I channeled it all back into myself and regained my power and happiness.

But I still felt a weight on my chest. Sometimes even a physical pull so strong I’d actually jerk forward like there was a giant fish hook in my heart. When we form relationships with people, we attach our energy to theirs with metaphysical cords. If paths divide and relationships end, those cords remain and can hold us back or become toxic and unhealthy.

I needed to let go of someone. As I’ve been working with energy, I tried a couple cord cutting rituals, unsure if they’d worked until I was sure they had not.

Last night, I was lying in bed when I had the idea to try a visualization related to this person. Instead of cords or rope, I closed my eyes and envisioned vines. Like weeds, they grew through my heart and out through my chest in one thick, twisted mass connecting my energy to his. I saw them. I felt them. And then I saw a startling flash that actually pulled me out of the moment. I knew it was working, but it took a second to figure out how to use that. I went back in and the bright yellow light came again. I saw the light drying out the vines. I felt them become frayed and brittle. I heard them splintering. Then, I envisioned myself pulling the vine straight out of my chest and it HURT. Wow. But it was out and I immediately felt lighter and free.

So here I am, holding this metaphysical vine that represented a love I never thought I’d feel AND that I had nurtured for almost 2 years. I am sentimental to a fault, but I had to destroy it. Cutting cords of attachment isn’t about leaving them lying about. This is meant to decimate energy connections. I envisioned a fire and I watched the dried vine burn.

And then I did something interesting. I surrounded the fire with stone, sort of creating a pyre in a fire pit. I transformed this connection I’d killed into a powerful love beacon meant to attract my equal, a true deserving partner.

It was exhausting, but I felt incredibly clear and light and free when it was done. There are lots of cord cutting rituals out there, and I’m no pro, but after getting frustrated with others, this one worked for me.

Here’s what to do:

  1. Be ready to let the person go. Without strong, clear intentions, you’re just going through the motions.
  2. Get comfortable. Sit, stand, lie down, breathe, light candles, burn incense, take a rose petal bubble bath- do whatever gets you into your calmest state. You don’t need to sit in lotus pose (unless that’s your calm space)!
  3. Invoke your protectors (because energy work is vulnerable stuff!)- whether it’s the elements, the divine, angels, spirit guides, invite them to surround you with white protective light and help you.
  4. Envision the cords in a way that calls to mind the specific person or relationship- for a family member, maybe it’s an umbilical cord or tissue. For a friend or lover, colored ribbon, the gold chain of a friendship bracelet, guitar string, ropes, or maybe the fish hook thing works for you. If nothing comes to mind, try envisioning their zodiac element as a physical cord like a burning rope for fire signs, a swirling vortex of air, a strong water current concentrated in your chest or branches, weeds, vines for Earth.(Note: if you have energy cords to cut with multiple people, don’t do them all at once. Focus on one relationship to hone your intent and ensure your ritual is successful. Do the next one another day.)
  5. See yourself destroying the cord. Pull it out. Tear it up. Burn it. Blow it up. Bury it. See it washing down a drain. Whatever feels powerful and gets it gone.
  6. Thank your protectors. They’re awesome.
  7. Relax and reward yourself. Have a glass of wine or eat a piece of dark chocolate because that was spiritually tough and you earned it.

If you’re not confident it worked or you feel that energy still with you after a few days, try it again with a new combination of mediation and visualization. Eventually, the energy will align and you’ll be able to complete your ritual. Rinse/repeat for any unwanted or negative attachments.