Sunday Stats

Sunday Stats

*Since my family first got an NES, I’ve had a controller in my hands. Exploring new worlds, meeting new characters and experiencing stories… in some ways, I’ve just connected better with the world through games. However, it’s also very important to me to be present in my life, to improve myself, to go out and MEET the people I’ve connected with online and to expand my knowledge. I spend hours in games; how do I level myself up?

In this weekly series, I’ll chronicle how I’ve improved my “stats” with completely arbitrary scoring.*

+2 Intelligence – How did I make myself a little smarter?
I’ve been watching the Netflix docuseries Rotten on my work-from-home days. Each episode is a fascinating tale of true-crime or controversy in various areas of the food industry. I’ve always been somewhat food-conscious. Growing up at the beach, I’m a seafood snob and never buy farmed fish or seafood at all if I’m not within an hour of a coastline. But it’s fascinating to learn about how deceitful the food industry is. All business is about making a buck, above all common good and decency.
The honey episode was particularly interesting since I use a lot of it and always trusted it came straight from bees. Now I know that’s not the case with store bought honey. Whenever I can, I buy local honey because dosing myself with local pollen via a spoonful of honey keeps my seasonal/locational allergies in check. I’ll definitely be making more trips to the farmer’s market now.

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+2 Charisma – How was I less awkward or more beautiful?
It was a terribly awkward week. One of these week’s I’ll have a “less awkward” update, but this is not that week. I’ve been slowly adding habits to my beauty and wellness routines. Typically, I can shower, dry my hair and do my minimal makeup in about 20 minutes because I kind of see makeup and beauty as a waste of time. It takes Ryan three times as long to get ready because he loves to preen himself. Lately I’ve changed my thinking that it’s not about being beautiful; it’s about feeling clean and confident. After showering all week, I slathered myself in a healthy palmful of Kiehl’s Creme de Corps. I love it because it smells nice and hydrates the fuck out of my skin and also sounds like Corpse Cream.

+2 Strength – New workouts, breakthroughs, challenges.
I hit my longest streak closing all my Apple Watch rings, which means taking stand/walking breaks each hour for 12 hours out of the day, doing at least 30 minutes of exercise, and burning at minimum 500 calories. On gym days, this is easy. On work from home days, I sometimes have to jog around the block with Muldoon at 11:30pm until I hit 500 calories. The little fireworks show I get on my wrist when I hit all three goals is maddeningly motivating. And sometimes I’ll win badges for streaks or doubling my goals. Some people are food driven; I’m motivated by tchotchkes.

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Pretty, shiny achievements!

12 day streak complete as of Friday night.

+2 Defense – Where did I consciously avoid or deflect negative energy?
I typically spend Saturdays at home by myself while Ryan works. Sometimes this is an amazing luxury. Sometimes it’s sad and boring and I spend too much time sleeping. Because my apartment is so small, I often forget that I enjoy having people over OR that it’s even an option! This week, I had one of my best friends over to play Splatoon, do chocolate face masks and make an olive oil cake like the glam bitches we are.

+1 Luck – Something good that happened this week
One of my good friends got a bonus at work and celebrated by taking me on a lady date! We hit The Nugget Spot and then had a couple drinks at The Belfry and Beauty Bar.

+1 Wealth – How did I save towards my goals?
On average, I spend $12 on lunch PER DAY. With shifting schedules, Sundays have become more about adventure than bumming around so meal prep hasn’t been on the menu (HAHAHA zing!). Ryan bought groceries this week, so I used that budget to sign up for Mealpal. Several friends have recommended it and it cuts my lunch spending in HALF. At least. Sometimes I can get 2 lunches out of one pickup. As a bonus, it’s introduced me to a lot of new lunch spots in my work nabe.

However, I spent FAR too much money on other things this week (two new subscription boxes, books, adventures…). This will be severely curbed in the coming weeks.

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Sunday Stats

*Since my family first got an NES, I’ve had a controller in my hands. Exploring new worlds, meeting new characters and experiencing stories… in some ways, I’ve just connected better with the world through games. However, it’s also very important to me to be present in my life, to improve myself, to go out and MEET the people I’ve connected with online and to expand my knowledge. I spend hours in games; how do I level myself up?

In this weekly series, I’ll chronicle how I’ve improved my “stats” with completely arbitrary scoring.*

+2 Intelligence – How did I make myself a little smarter?
I read Jurassic Park. If you know me, this does not surprise you. I know every line to every film by heart. What will surprise you: this was my first time reading the novel. I can’t even explain why it took me this long. I think I was a little bit afraid. The book proved VERY different. Characters I expected to die lived. Characters I was sure were safe, died. Robert Muldoon survived, which made me very happy considering my dog- Muldoon- is named after the notorious Game Warden and Velociraptor hunter. It was like reading deleted scenes and there were so many I’d love to see played out on the big screen. The scene where Muldoon tries to tranquilize the T-Rex saw me nervously gnawing my cuticles into actual pulp. Was it the most intellectual read? No. But it counts!

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+3 Charisma – How was I less awkward or more beautiful?
To put into perspective how stumped I am by girly things: when my sister gave me these Sugar Bear Hair Vitamins for Christmas, I looked at them in confusion and tried to figure out how I’d get them into my hair. Did they foam up in the shower? Did I need to burst them open for some kind of oil? Yeah. I’m a beautidiot. [Spoiler: they’re vitamins. You fucking EAT them] A big goal for me is to start getting vitamins in every day. After trying multivitamins in the past and getting sick immediately, I’ve become averse to them. I have seen more gummy options lately though. I picked up a gummy multivitamin and calcium chews on top of my hair bears. So far, I’ve noticed my hair does feel a lot softer and looks shinier, which is not something curly hair does.Β 

+2 Strength – New workouts, breakthroughs, challenges.
Guess who made it to spin class? THREE TIMES. I wasn’t the best about getting up for my regular workouts, but I made it up with an extra spin class on Saturday. So I’m making progress towards my goals.

+2 Defense – Where did I consciously avoid or deflect negative energy?
I had some stressful moments at work this week. But, I recognized a lot of that stress was a response to my previous toxic work environment, where panic and frantic were the default. So instead of letting those old anxieties take control, I took a walk to get some water or found a private phone booth and told myself this role is a different situation, office, team, job and fear does not apply here. Fear does NOT apply here.

+3 Luck – Something good that happened this week
One of my life goals is to own a Skee-ball machine. The problem is that they’re 10-13 feet long, which is about the length of my entire NYC apartment. But, I’ve been putting it out into the universe anyway. On Tuesday, I found a Skee-ball machine that will fit! Destiny.

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Totally counts

-1 Wealth – How did I save towards my goals?
I overspent this week. Technically, I overspent last week and that snowballed into this week. I’ve noticed this becoming a trend in the last couple of months- most notably since my boyfriend started working a very physical job and I’ve had to take on all the household responsibilities again. I usually don’t budget for groceries or laundry or household necessities like paper towels and toothpaste. This week, I started tracking these spends. This will give me a better idea of what I can budget for. It will also make me look at these items and figure out where I can cut back. I can probably get the toothpaste to stretch a little further if Ryan would learn to SQUEEZE FROM THE BOTTOM.

Friday Five- Your Wish Is YOUR Command

If ever there was a year to start a regular gratitude ritual, this one is it. Recommended writing for all of you who need to shrug off the “ugh” and rewire your brain to see the positive. So in addition to one of today’s 5 things, this weekly list of things I’m loving will also serve as a cheery space.

1. An Uncluttered Life.
“The thing most people resist when making a big change [is] the idea that they have to give up some things they may like to get what they love. And they stumble over this.” Since my boyfriend moved in on the 1st, every day has been an exercise in decluttering. I’ve become a better organizer. I’ve learned to let go of things that I like, but that no longer serve me. This applies to my emotional and spiritual self too. I spent a lot of time making due with things that I liked while waiting for what I wanted without realizing that what I wanted couldn’t come until I made the space for it. “it isn’t what you add to your life that makes it great; it’s what you take away.” Toss whatever clutters your heart, your mind, body and your physical space so you have ROOM for the things you want to come into your life.

2. Adopt a Roach for Valentine’s Day. Support the Wildlife Conservation Society and rid yourself of pesky ex (or patriarchy πŸ™„) energy with this little ritual. This is such a cute and creative little Galentine’s gift for yourself (or a friend who needs to laugh over a former flame). No ill will. All for a good cause and your own levity. And chocolate 🍫. Most importantly chocolate.

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Heyyyyyyyy

3. Shantae: Half Genie Hero. Way back in 2013 I backed this game on Kickstarter because I have a massive crush on Shantae. I just love this little ass kickin’, hair whippin’ heroine and her latest adventures are a WISH GRANTED! I’ve been streaming a little, but mostly I’m playing offline to work on a speedrun later. I will definitely be streaming more. From counterfeit mermaid factories to magic carpet races, intense platforming challenges are woven into a creative storyline that keeps me engaged in every town in Sequin Land. Highly recommend this game. Seriously, get it. Or you’ll feel like this bro.

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You guys don’t get to peek inside yet…

4. Bullet Journaling. The basic premise of a bullet journal is that it combines your planner, to-do list and journal into one simplified system for organizing your life and tracking patterns. There are a ton of different ways to set it up. Here are some ideas. Mine doesn’t look NEARLY so pretty, but I’m seeing positive changes related to mood, appetite and creative output among other things.

I also carved out a space each month for daily gratitude. The goal is to write one thing each day, but some days there are tons! Watching the list build is positive reinforcement in the beauty of the universe enough! Other suggestions for sections- book reading tracker, doodle space, poem prompts and scream boxes (for when you really need to let it all out). And if you’re one of those Washi tape people, go crazy! I’m barely a straight lines person.

5. Soulmates. πŸ§€. When I was 15, I was madly in love with a boy 2 grades ahead of me. He was popular and athletic, but also dark and brooding and mysterious. I was weird and artsy, often spacing out and constantly scribbling in journals. Somehow, we became friends. He convinced me to manage the Boy’s Tennis team and we’d share one pair of headphones on the bus trips to away games or I’d lie in the sun watching practice until he was done and could drive me home in his “super cool” Honda del Sol. While I not-so-subtly pined for him, he strung me along just enough, but remained aloof. We carried on through his senior year talking all night and casually ignoring feelings all day. Then he graduated. I was heartbroken. I was sure he was my soulmate, but life sort of went on…

We’d talk on and off over the years, but he never seemed particularly interested in me as more than a friend and confidant, so I eventually let go of my infatuation. Until a couple months ago when the cadence of our communication picked up again drastically. I’m of course living in New York City and he had just relocated back to our hometown on the Island of Misfit Toys in South Jersey. We hadn’t seen each other in almost 10 years, but started talking every night for 6+ hours. Gradually my feelings came back and I suspected he was catching some as well. On November 29th, I realized I was in love with him. I was not happy about this discovery. There was a lot at stake and I was really loving my solo life.

BUT he was feeling some things too. So he decided he needed to come for a visit to validate them. December 1st, he was waiting in my apartment when I got home from work looking nervous, but otherwise exactly like he did in high school. Then he kissed me. Then we went to get dinner. Then I took him to Barcade because drinks were required and I wanted to win at Joust. There at the bar, he cornered me in that sexy way that makes me crazy, looked into my eyes and asked me point blank if I’m in love with him. I downed the rest of my drink and told him I am. And guess what? He is too! πŸŽ†

We spent December apart trying to figure out what in the fuck we were going to do about all this, arguing about how crazy this is, browsing engagement rings and lamenting that we missed SO MANY YEARS before landing on the only possible solution: He’d have to move into my little 300sqft East Village apartment on January 1st. So that’s what happened. And we’ve been grinning like idiots for the last 27 days, laughing about how all this even happened and enjoying whimsical sleeptalking psychedelic poetry slams.

So sometimes your 15 year-old self/18 year-old self gets it right and you just have to wait until your 32 year-old self/35 year-old self has her/his shit together enough to make it happen and make it last. 😊