Catch Feelings… in a Roach Trap

Each year, I support wildlife conservation and self love through a little ritual thanks to The Bronx Zoo. I name a cockroach after an ex for Valentine’s day. It’s cathartic, tax-deductible, and includes a little gift for yourself!

Meet my roaches from 2018 and 2017.

In the realm of love, I’m focusing on myself this year and letting go of a BIG relationship. So my ritual will help me let go of the years of pain and sadness. I chose the bundle with a candle I can burn – it’s like the Bronx Zoo knows about this annual ritual by now 🤣

I wrote this cheesy little poem on my certificate this year. When it arrives, I’ll be in my new apartment. I’ll meditate over the certificate, visualizing Raid spray dousing the negative memories and pain, creating a bug-proof barrier around my heart to protect from further infestation of abuse and darkness. Then, I’ll burn the certificate to make sure there’s no lingering energy. Each time I light the candle, I’ll think about the ways insects nurture our bodies and environment, how they transform and adapt through the stages of their lives, and how resilient they are in the face of a world that is largely out to destroy them.

Name your own roach here before Feb 4th to get your items before Valentine’s Day! Who’s on your hex list?

2020 Word of the Year

I stopped making resolutions years ago. Instead, I find it much more productive to set an intention. I choose a word I want to embody or theme my year around. This year, it’s liberate.

I’ve always been comfortable in my pain with a habit of holding onto situations or relationships that are wrong for me because it’s familiar. Safer than venturing into the unknown. But this year, no more waiting for change that won’t come. No more hoping for things to fix themselves. It’s time to liberate myself from my darkness.

I’m liberating myself from a body I’m uncomfortable in by challenging myself to run every day.

I’m no longer holding myself hostage in other people’s expectations.

No more shackling myself to unhappy, unhealthy relationships.

I’m done mentally and emotionally imprisoning myself in my past.

What word or idea will you embody this year?

Setting 2019 Intentions

Last year, I chose MAKE as my intention. That word grounded everything I did, resulting in a lot of major successes – especially in the making money arena!

But 2018 was still full of a lot of truly draining challenges, which is why I chose TRANSCEND for 2019.

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Transcending is all about staying centered throughout the chaos around you and not letting the things you can’t control knock you off course. You can’t control the people around you, but you can rise above their negativity, their drama and their expectations.

It also means going beyond your own expectations for yourself – beyond what you think you’re capable of. I’m going to push myself to grow professionally at an exponential rate. Transcend my mental and physical blockers to push my body to new achievements. I’m going to knock on the doors of NO and turn them into YESes.

What word will you embody for 2019?

October Manifestations

I’ve been starting each month with Gala Darling’s Radical Self Love Almanac. October is all about embracing luxury. Amazingly, after filling out my chapter for the month, I pulled the Empress for my tarot of the month ritual. She’s all about – you guessed it! – luxury! So from the first of the month, I’ve been in a luxe state of mind.

Less than two weeks after I accepted this energy, I’ve had many opulent experiences come my way.

On October 2nd, I was invited to a preview party for the holiday Sugarfina line. It was held at Park Avenue – a swank restaurant that changes with the seasons. They served endless champagne, some of the most delicious and inventive hor d’oeuvres, AND let us sample all the candy we could handle. I discovered their chocolate covered popcorn and developed an addiction to a forthcoming gingerbread cookie bites. At the end of the night, they gifted us a bunch of candy and let us send a free candy bento to a friend.

Last weekend my mom and sister treated me to spa day at the Sea Spa in Cape May. We got our nails done – I picked a gold that literally looks like my fingertips were dipped in gold leaf – and then we got hour-long facials. It felt glorious! But the best part was getting to spend time with my sister.

This week, I was ready to make a hair appointment – and my haircuts cost around $300 because hair like mine requires the curl experts. Just before I was going to make the call, the salon emailed me that they needed hair models. So not only did I get the haircut I desperately needed, but it was FREE! So I treated myself to a bottle of their amazing leave in conditioner to treat my hair to the decadence it deserves.

There’s so much more yet to come, I just know it. I can’t wait to share more results.

What have you manifested lately?

🍁The Maple🍁 A Fall Tarot Spread

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I’ve been wanting to design some new spreads for some time now. With the weather finally turning from oppressive heat and blazing sun to the cool, grey days I love about the Northeast, I was inspired to create a spread for Fall.

I call it the Maple Spread because it loosely resembles a maple leaf, especially with my brown, woody Binding of Isaac deck. I chose this deck because I’ve been playing the game a lot lately so I’m feeling really connected to the energy.

The grounding card represents the overall energy of the season. What’s the theme of this Fall? The “spire” cards each focus on an individual month, telling you where to direct that overarching energy. I gave this new spread a shot and I’m very pleased with how well it worked. The grounding card feeds into each month incredibly well.

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The Reveal! At first glance, the grounding card is the only major arcana presence. Strong foundation. And the Empress! Then I see half of my pulls are fours, which represent security and stability. I think of those words and heavy wool socks, steaming tea, and mountains of blankets and snuggles all come to mind. But let’s dig into the spread.

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Overall Fall Energy
The Empress
I love this card! She is the feminine energy of creation, and nurturing self and others. This season is all about embracing the sensual – activate all of your senses to create beauty in your life. Make a winter garden in a jar. Indulge in pumpkin spice, ginger and clove. Bake a pie for your neighbors or coworkers. Surround yourself with what inspires you to MAKE what you love.

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September Focus
Six of Hearts (Cups)
Tap into your childhood to inspire new projects and works of passion. Let nostalgia carry you to familiar places. It’s not about living in the past, but rather borrowing aspects from days gone to blend into new fabrics, poems, recipes, spells, songs…

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October Focus
Four of Pennies (Pentacles)
In October, transition from nostalgia to tradition. What can you resurrect from the past to create new traditions, or update sacred ones? Tradition is one of the greatest methods of building a sense of stability. Remember that you can’t control the chaos, but relying on rituals and the Fall traditions you create will alleviate the worry.

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November Focus
Four of Keys (Swords)
This is actually the perfect November card as it places the emphasis on creating calm heading into the often stressful traditional holiday season. Build mental strength through meditation. Revamp your morning ritual. Go to your happy place – mentally and in real life as often as you can. Take a bubble bath every night. Do whatever it takes to move your mind into a calm atmosphere where you feel protected. Rest and replenish your energy.

Give the Maple Spread a try and let me know what YOUR fall focuses are.

💵 Make A Money Manifesting Wallet 💵

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As part of resetting my financial mindset, I created a money manifesting wallet this week. It was time to upgrade my wallet anyway – my new iPhone no longer fit into the wallet/phone charger case I’d bought a couple years ago. The most powerful colors for attracting abundance are green, gold and red. I was drawn toward this red Kate Spade with gold accents. I admired Spade’s feminine power, business acumen, bold yet classic aesthetic and endless creativity. She was a true inspiration, and one of very few designers I ever felt compelled to follow.

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Brand new Kate Spade

It’s the perfect size to fit into even my smallest clutches. Four dual-sided card slots (two on each side) hold the cards I need most often without getting bulky. In fact, it’s thin enough that I can keep my WeWork badge and my IBM ID on opposite sides and scan into work without having to remove either one of them!

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I elected to have quotation marks embossed in gold on the back. Symbolic, of course! These quotes hold the intention I set and keep it fresh in my memory, reminding me of my words every time I see them glittering.

The center pocket unzips to reveal black and white vertical stripes inside. The white stripes draw positive energy in while the black stripes expel negativity.

I charged up some altar items to keep in the middle: a Ulysses S. Grant dollar coin (of the $1 coins I have, he is the only one looking toward the future), a Borgata poker chip to bring unexpected luck and good fortune, and a paper bill because like attracts like (this dollar will never be spent). 💵

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Now I’m all set and ready to manifest with my tiny, portable abundance altar by my side! I keep the diamond coin purse from my Vegas Money Spell on my altar and add paper bills – $1’s to $20’s – as they come to me. It’s my stationary cash-attracting beacon that lives on my home altar. No matter where I am, the Universe has my address to send the checks!

What are you manifesting right now?

Pint Predictions – Fortune Telling with Beer Foam

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Ever since I was a kid I believed in signs and saw them often. Have you ever had your tea leaves read? Essentially, the loose tea leaves in the bottom of your teacup look like tiny symbols that have their own meanings. I’ll do a full tasseography post another day, because lately I’ve been finding my fortune in foam! Most Sundays, my boyfriend and I visit different NYC area breweries for #SundaySips. I love exploring new craft beers.

If you let the beer settle a bit after pouring (and stare into your drink contemplating your life like I do), the head will dissipate into interesting patterns and symbols.

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The Thumbprint – A very clear fingerprint appeared in my Coney Island Brewing Fangtooth DIPA. As our fingerprints associate closely with personal identity, I read this as an upcoming opportunity to focus on myself and expand or connect with my own being.

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The Sabretooth Tiger – This was the sweet potato farmhouse ale from Big aLICe Brewing in Long Island City. If you tilt your head to the right, you’ll see the sabretooth in motion -his tail and hind leg at the top and front paws outstretched under two long teeth in an open mouth, ready to attack. I interpret this to mean someone or something from my past will reappear and likely bite me in the ass. I’ll have to battle a demon or face the reappearance of a ghost from my former life.


The Solar System – I’m pretty sure this was What’s Up, Doc – a carrot, ginger farmhouse style collaboration between Big aLICe and Rockaway Brewing Co. Two overlapping moons on top-left and top-right, almost completely symmetrical, pull on the three planets in the middle of the glass. This says there are multiple energy forces at work in my life (possibly 3 specific areas) and I need to go with the ebb and flow to allow the universe control over my greater good.

What do you see in the pint glasses?